Of course, these are bound to change. That's the beauty of this openness. We can edit, add and remove rules as we see fit. Afterall, this is going to be a first time for the both of us.
- Never text/call/etc. other people when we're together.
- No pictures. When we do reach the point that we're comfortable with sending/receiving pictures, no face shots.
- Safety precautions apply.
- No sex.
- No love.
- ALWAYS tell the other person that our girlfriend/boyfriend will know about and is okay with the exchange.
- ALWAYS tell each other about other people. Amount of details will be determined as we go along.
- ALWAYS make it clear to the other person that it will not go further than the screen/phone. There is no chance of a relationship of any other kind aside from possible friendship. No kissing.
- Communication will be paramount.
- No deleting text messages/other evidence, just to promote trust and honesty.
These are good rules. Having gone through something similar, I'd suggest one more rule.
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Lesson I learned, 'she' knew and told me that it was just a real-time porn thing (I love that phrase by the way), but she was hoping for more, and waiting for the chance.
When that chance never came, things ended badly.
Just food for thought.
Thanks for all the advice, Mr. JJ. I'm going to speak to the boyfriend about that.
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